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I have a beautiful maiden name, but my future husband and relatives insist that I take his last name after marriage. His last name is not so ugly, but mine obviously sounds better. And I don’t see the point of this tradition in today’s world.

Where did the tradition of a wife taking her husband’s surname come from – it’s hard to say. Probably it happened because previously only men had passports: a daughter was first recorded in her father’s passport, then, when she married, in her husband’s, under his surname. And women could not get an official document at all at first, and then only with the permission of her father or husband.

Where did the tradition of a wife taking her husband’s surname come from – it’s hard to say. Probably it happened because previously only men had passports: a daughter was first recorded in her father’s passport, then, when she married, in her husband’s, under his surname. And women could not get an official document at all at first, and then only with the permission of her father or husband.

In the past, women who entered their husbands’ families often did not work and were supported by their husbands. But a modern woman is able to support herself and often her husband. Except that husbands are in no hurry to change their surname to their wife’s father’s surname, considering it offensive. This means that there is still dignity, that he is a man, and that all is not lost. That he is the main person in the family and he decides something.

And if you do not care that you have, for example, the last name, Ivanova, and the child will be Petrov (a), it will certainly worry all those who like to stick their nose in their business. Often acquaintances, officials, doctors at the clinic, the child’s teachers, and God knows who else start asking inappropriate questions about why the surname of the child and the parents do not match. This is really annoying, and booring everyone and put them in their place with their questions is not always the desire and opportunity. That’s what stops me, and I’ll probably still switch to my husband’s last name, even though I don’t want to.

Most men want their wife to take their last name-they then have the feeling that she has entered his family, is part of it. Advanced men don’t think it’s a humiliation for a woman, although most don’t think twice about it and insist on it “just like everyone else. On the other hand, a father’s last name is a daughter’s respect for her parents, those who raised her and raised her. A woman is not a thing to wear the name of her next owner. Anyway, I’m confused, but I don’t want to let it go because everyone else does it. It is important for me to make an informed choice, one that is my personal decision, not one imposed by someone.

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  • 07/20/2021

    Traditions, whatever they may be, are worth observing. Especially if your future children, who will not be able to withstand the slander and limitations of gossipers and people who stick their noses in their own business, will suffer because of their nonobservance. So do not be original and compromise the interests of the child for the sake of feminist principles

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