I’m just a woman. Not very young anymore. Divorced. Single. Living, working, resting. Tired of it, that everyone who is not lazy looking for an excuse to reproach me for my marital status. Why does a man have the right to be single? Divorced is great! A single woman is looked upon as a leper. I’m very tired of it.
I want to go to the theater, to the movies. I take a ticket. One. And the cashier says sympathetically: “Why didn’t your husband buy one for you?” And the devil made me say there is no husband. She lowered her eyes, and quietly and sympathetically: “Well, everyone will be there with someone, but what about you?”
I want to go to the theater, to the movies. I take a ticket. One. And the cashier says sympathetically: “Why didn’t your husband buy one for you?” And the devil made me say there is no husband. She lowered her eyes, and quietly and sympathetically: “Well, everyone will be there with someone, but what about you?”
Going to another city to visit friends by bus. A very elderly neighbor is interested:
“Why didn’t your husband come with you?” I lie, so I don’t get pestered: “My husband is on a business trip.
In the village, where everyone has known me since childhood, after my divorce they just look at me as a woman of easy virtue. Some people even stopped saying hello. I ask my friend why this is so?
– Since you didn’t hold on to your husband, they think you’re inferior.
I’m complete just to go to work. There is no need to walk together with my husband by the hand. Why am I complete enough to go to the store alone, clean alone, cook alone, check my son’s homework alone? But to go to the movies, to go on vacation – it turns out I am incomplete. And at the same time, it is worth it to dress better, do unusual hairstyles, as they say very unpleasant things.
Going to a friend’s birthday party. I had my makeup done, my hair done. I like myself. I get on the streetcar. A kind conductor gives me a “compliment”: “Why are you so fancy, pensioner? My husband doesn’t look after you. There you go. And so not so. And otherwise bad. I’m sick of it! I just want to live. The way life has turned out, that’s the way to live!
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Show comments Hide commentsStrange people you meet, the conductor general complete rude, probably two classes of education, and the cashier what does it matter with whom you are alone or not alone, maybe I alone want to go to the theater, maybe I had a fight with my husband, and myself able to pay for yourself ???? And in general, not really understand what the reason for this attitude. Especially a lot of divorced women. It’s just that you are surrounded by people who are not very intelligent.
Svetlana, just act like a confident self-sufficient person and don’t pay attention to stereotypes and middle-aged women. I have noticed that many “family men” who flaunt their correctness and like to repeat “hitting means loving” are in fact deeply unhappy people. You should feel sorry for them, not the other way around.
Dima is right about the fact that many married people who are outwardly happy in their marriages are actually unhappy people. Many married people have their own big problems. And these people want to expose your soul to them with their words as well, to feel lighter at your expense. Like, they’re not the only ones who are unhappy.
But that’s not what I want to say. Let me first give you an analogy: when I wasn’t pregnant, I didn’t notice other pregnant women, I wasn’t interested. But when I got pregnant, I suddenly saw them, and it seemed to me that there were so many of them that I hadn’t noticed before. That’s just how human perception is arranged – sometimes what excites the subconscious, that “pops up” in front of my eyes. And it begins to seem that it is everywhere and everywhere. That’s what I mean. Maybe, deep inside, you are still concerned about that problem, the pain is not completely gone, otherwise you would not have reacted so strongly and did not see the words “about her husband” everywhere. A person who, let’s say, stole, but is tormented with remorse, would notice everywhere the words “theft,” “someone else’s thing,” etc. It’s not the way people react to you, the divorced one, but your subconscious takes their words and makes them look that way. Many a phrase thrown in, but you go and rethink it all ten times. Also, some have complimented you, on the contrary, with a kind of compliment. If you asked about your husband, it means you presumed to have one. So you don’t look like a poor divorced woman (a stereotype many people have), but you look like a successful family man. Isn’t that how it is? After all, you seem to have a son, as I understand it? Since you pay increased attention to the remarks of others, then somewhere probably still sits a small splinter. Why don’t you deal with it?
Heh heh, maybe they’re jealous?
You are a confident, free woman. You have many more opportunities than married women. It’s harder, of course, but there is a certain “charm” in it. So you’re extraordinary.
And all kinds of stereotypes, and all kinds of grannies, conductors, and cashiers, you can ignore.
For I see that you are somewhat stuck on this…