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Surely many people have been in difficult family situations and coped with them somehow. Please advise me if you can. I am 39 years old, working as a nurse. I have been married for 20 years. I have a daughter, Margarita, aged 16. At the time I did something really stupid when I quit medical school and went to work in order to give my husband the opportunity to study. I provided for my family, and he was able to finish college in peace. Then a friend of mine took him to work as a manager at her firm. He always said: “Let’s wait another year, I’ll get on my feet, and then I’ll help you, and you’ll go back to your institute. As a result, Alexander is now a successful businessman and owner of a firm, while I still remain a nurse.

Surely many people have been in difficult family situations and coped with them somehow. Please advise me if you can. I am 39 years old, working as a nurse. I have been married for 20 years. I have a daughter, Margarita, aged 16. At the time I did something really stupid when I quit medical school and went to work in order to give my husband the opportunity to study. I provided for my family, and he was able to finish college in peace. Then a friend of mine took him to work as a manager at her firm. He always said: “Let’s wait another year, I’ll get on my feet, and then I’ll help you, and you’ll go back to your institute. As a result, Alexander is now a successful businessman and owner of a firm, while I still remain a nurse.

It’s okay, I agree to live for him and for my daughter. Maintain a “home base”. Except that Sasha has been very different for the last couple of years. He complained that I had grown old, that I couldn’t dress myself, and that he was ashamed to have a nurse wife. And the worst thing is that my daughter gradually moved to her father’s side. She was proud of his successes, telling her friends what a wonderful, successful father she had. It got to the point that one day, when I came to the parent-teacher meeting at school, I heard from the class teacher that Margarita was telling me that my mother was very sick and could not communicate with the teachers. I was shocked. I guess I did the wrong thing and decided to go have a frank conversation with my husband. The situation exploded. My husband said he didn’t want to live with me anymore. And my daughter supported him.

Now I live with my parents, my husband is apart, and my husband and I are renting an apartment together for our daughter. Rita doesn’t want to communicate with me, she says I’m a loser.

My heart breaks with fear for her fate. She is in her last year of high school, working part-time as a waitress in a nightclub. She says that, unlike me, she will achieve everything. I understand that at 16 you want to be independent and have faith in your own strength, but I know that life is much harder and I am very afraid for my girl.

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